Shadow Tantra – Melbourne

July 29th – 30th
10am – 6pm

*This workshop explicitly welcomes people from Melbourne’s LGBTQ+ communities. There won’t be any heterosexual gender pairing in any individual exercise during the workshop.*

Our erotic shadow is often suppressed both personally and culturally. Our darker desires: to control or be controlled, to release something of our inner beast or slut; to live with wild sexual abandon and similar unrestrained impulses can bring with them levels of shame and confusion. There is a huge fear that if we explore these archetypal qualities we will become lost, out of control, shamed, disrespected, or somehow not an OK person.

And yet, these archetypes are rich sources of love, power and self-knowledge and bring with them powerful opportunities for healing, empowerment and personal growth. By exploring our erotic shadows, we are taking a lit candle into the more hidden recesses of our psyches, shining a light on our inner motivations and thus learning more about who we truly are.

In practical terms, Shadow Tantra is about combining conscious sexuality practices with mindfulness, Conscious Kink, neotantra, ritual and BDSM. 

We will spend the first day exploring and setting personal boundaries allowing these to come from heart and body as much as from mind. Consent and boundaries, and good communication are the foundations of this kind of work. Only once we are sure that all present are capable of expressing and asserting our boundaries, can we start to explore within the spheres of the erotic shadow using BDSM techniques. Our workshops consciously work on being a welcoming and educated space for trans and gender diverse people. 6 tickets are available exclusively for people identifying as trans and gender diverse.

This event is an opportunity to safely and consciously access some of our more challenging impulses and desires in facilitated exercises. To get a solid sense of the importance of boundaries, clear communication, working with energy, and in negotiating around the personal differences in level and types of activities people prefer.

Shadow Tantra offers opportunities for exploring the deepest recesses of the psyche, powerful tools of intimacy and connection as well as frivolous light-hearted fun (and everything in between!)

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Facilitation Team:

Seani Love (he/him) has been teaching erotic ritual techniques to clients, private groups, couples and workshops since 2010. A long-term explorer in this unique field, Seani received the prestigious industry award ‘Sex Worker of the Year’ in London in November 2015. His work combines ritual techniques, Conscious Kink, Neotantra, and many other disciplines. His sessions and workshops enable his clients to go on profound journeys into their inner worlds, helping them find power, wisdom, love, and pleasure within themselves.

Seani will be doing a limited number of private sessions while in Melbourne. Contact him directly for details.


Nikkiema Rai (she/her) is a Somatic Sexologist, Sexological Bodyworker, speaker, and facilitator, who has worked and studied in the sexuality industry for over 6 years. During that time, she has studied at two of the most pioneering sexuality schools in the world, one being the Institute of New Paradigm Intimacy which she now facilitates with. She has hosted dozens of pleasure activation circles, women’s and mixed space circles, and self-pleasure workshops. Nikkiema is passionate about ritual, sexuality, relating, and all things somatic, and is best known for her transformational work supporting people to create rich lives full of depth and connection.

Logistics & FAQ

Q: Do I need a partner?
A: No you don’t need a partner. You are welcome to come alone or with partner(s). There will be exercises where you are encouraged to work with others, but you are welcome to work with the person you came with for any exercise.

Q: Do you have concession pricing?
Yes we have a small number of concession spaces available. Please contact Lindsay on 0412699691 to enquire.

Q: Do you cater for people with disabilities?
Sadly this venue is not wheelchair accessible. Although it is a groundfloor venue with minimal stairs, the door frames are not wide enough to fit a wheelchair. Please note that most people will be sitting on the floor or standing up for exercises – if you need a chair to sit on instead or you have access or mobility needs that you’d like us to know about please email the teaching team at and we’ll do our best to tailor the workshop to you.

Q: Is sex likely to happen?
This is a space in which some sexual activity could happen and is allowable.

Q: What is the age limit?
There is no upper age limit. Our minimum age for workshops is 18. Ages of attendees varies between event and location, but you can expect an age range of 20-65. 

Q: Is this a queer friendly workshop?
Yes – definitely! All gender and sexuality expressions are welcome. We don’t ‘gender match’ at this workshop and all genders are actively encouraged to play and practise with other genders. 

Q: Do you give refunds?

Gendered tickets are transferable to other people with the same gender. It is the attendee’s responsibility to find someone to transfer their ticket to.
If you can’t find a replacement for yourself, refunds are as follows:

*14 or more days before the event: 80% refund
* 7-13 days before the event: 60% refund
* 2-6 days before the event: 50% refund
* Less than 48 hours before event: no refund possible

What Others Say: 

“I have de-clawed the daemons of my past, spanked them soundly and put them to bed. I’ve found a new language, a new confidence and understanding of control, consent and respect within the world of kink, which will serve me well in all aspects of my life. It’s a start, a foundation and one which I can’t wait to build on.. ~ Greig McArthur

“As a newbie to conscious kink and conscious kink spaces, and attending knowing no one, with a trauma history I was concerned may be triggered and overwhelm me, I was repeatedly hugely and happily surprised. Consent was central. Vulnerability, wobbles, and confusions, were welcomed and held and loved. Each team member brought their gifts and the space was so, so, so well held. I had experiences I have never had before, found parts of me I didn’t know were there, and found ways to deepen intimacy with other amazing humans.” – Kitty


Saturday 29th:10am-6pm 

Sunday 30th: 10am-6pm

Please arrive between 09:15 and 09:45 on the first day to make sure we are all settled in and able to start on time.


The venue details and directions will be sent nearer the time.


Early Bird: $395 (ends 16th June) 

Standard: $495 

A limited number of concession places are available at this workshop. Please get in contact with us at the number below if you wish to discuss concession options.

In order to be able to give each participant the attention they need through their process during the weekend, we have decided to keep the group small, with a maximum of 30 participants.For further information about this event please contact Lindsay on 0416 386 269

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