I was delighted to be interviewed by The Times for their special on male sex workers
His place or yours? The rise of the male sexpert
They’re highly professional. They charge thousands for their services. And their field of expertise is women and sex. Charlotte Edwardes finds out exactly what these men offer (pretty much everything, it seems)
Seani Love is 47. He believes the biggest problem for women in sex is the complete breakdown of communication in the bedroom. “Most men are not educated to ask what their lovers want and their lovers are not empowered enough to specify.
“But I don’t want to put the blame entirely on men,” he says. “There is a lack of education around sex in general. And women are often preconditioned to want to please.”
While Uddin’s whole ethos is headlined “sacred-sexual awakening”, Love is more straight down the line, catering for everything from straightforward penetration to kink, S&M and bondage.
I meet him at teatime in a smart hotel in Covent Garden, where he looks mildly uncomfortable in his jeans and threat of stubble (later on, he speeds off to meet someone in All Bar One). He asks the waiter for breath mints and a flat white coffee. His manner is gentle and chivalrous – he offers me the lion’s share of the biscuits and whips out a credit card at maximum speed when I am momentarily unable to find mine – and speaks in a low, shy way with a light Australian accent (he grew up in Sydney).
Aside from his workshops, his private client operation works like this: people contact him mostly through Twitter and Facebook (although he also has a website). They pay a deposit of £100 and then organise a first meeting. Sometimes it’s in a hotel or restaurant, but he is most comfortable at home in Leyton because he knows where the “lube and teabags” are and where he has a special room – “not my bedroom”. He also provides chocolates.
Love won’t have sex on a first “date” because he needs to establish whether the chemistry is there. “It’s a bit different for male sex workers,” he says coyly. “Things need to work.” For the same reason, he only has sex with one client in a day and the minimum booking time is three hours. This, he points out, is the striking difference between male and female sex work.
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